I’m not sure why, but for as long as I can remember, I’ve had this blissful dissatisfaction with where I’m at in general. I say blissful because I’m not an unhappy person…and I’m grateful for the life I’ve created…but nevertheless, I’m never fully satisfied. It’s a nagging feeling that never goes away.
I know this sounds sad…and I realize it can be taken too far…but because I’m conscious of it (and putting myself out there by writing this article), I believe an ongoing quest for self-improvement, taking care of your physical health, and working on how to better yourself mentally is a good thing.
In my opinion, the opposite of this is a lot worse. If you have no goals or no self-worth…if you’re not working on yourself…and if you’re just “going with the flow”…I think you could potentially find yourself 20–30 years older with a very large gap of where you are and where you want to be.
And this quest is definitely ongoing. We’re all imperfect. We do some things well and other things need work. And when we finally figure things out in one area, other issues pop up that need to be addressed…or you identify new things you want to get better at…not to mention the randomness of life.
Take the current situation we’re all in. Personally, my diet was pretty solid before the coronavirus. It’s not terrible now, but it’s definitely taken a hit for sure…so now that’s something new I’m working to improve.
OK, I want to transition this article into giving you 8 ways to make yourself better in every way. This includes taking care and working to improve your mental health, emotional health, physical health, etc. for the long term. I’m far from having it all figured out, but these are the things that help me.
1. Be Grateful
Every morning when you wake up, take a break and list out 3 things you’re grateful for to stay connected to yourself. I use a journal app on my phone, but you can also write it out with pen and paper. Doing this rewires your brain to look for the good things and helps you develop a positive mindset which will help improve your mental health.
This one is obvious, but I had to include it. Get yourself moving; it’s a game-changer. Find out what works best for you: walking, running, swimming, weights, boxing, yoga, martial arts, etc. Your self-esteem and your confidence will increase.
3. Have Goals
How can you make yourself better if you don’t know what that looks like? How can you achieve things, personally or professionally, if you don’t know what you want to achieve? Make sure you are taking care to write down your goals and look at them daily…and make sure you include pictures/visuals of your goals because it will create a bigger impact.
4. Invest in Yourself
The best investment you can make is investing in yourself. The stronger of a person you are, the more you will help and amplify your family and those around you. Over time, you’ll show up differently everywhere you go…and you’ll contribute to the world with more impact. You should look for ways to continually improve your skills, learn new things, and gain knowledge across all areas.
5. Never Stop Learning
Never stop feeding your brain new knowledge. Don’t become static. I read that Warren Buffett reads 4–5 hours per day. He’s almost 90 years old…worth about 75 billion…and he’s still learning new things every single day. The way I address this is by investing my time and money to take a break and get into masterminds, courses, podcasts, and books.
Communication is the key to everything. Stay connected with your spouse, your kids, your friends, your team members, everyone. To live better, personally and professionally, clear communication keeps things flowing and prevents small road bumps from becoming craters. And don’t shy away from difficult conversations even when your mental health is tanking — I know this is hard…and it takes practice…but it’s important.
7. Help People
Helping people and giving back is a crucial piece of living better and being more fulfilled. First off, it’s the right thing to do, but it’s also super rewarding for your self-worth and mental health. If everyone on this planet focused on helping just a few people, the ripple effect would be massive. How do you help other people? Give time or money to charity…join a mastermind and pour into the other members…and look for opportunities where you can help another person and genuinely provide value.
8. Make Yourself Uncomfortable
Maybe you’re wanting a different way for how to better yourself mentally? Make yourself uncomfortable because this is where the growth occurs. When you face something challenging or uncomfortable, and get through it, it changes your emotional health and mental health. Your confidence and self-esteem go up…your mindset gets stronger. It’s similar to going to a gym…if your goal is to get stronger long-term, you lift weights and your body responds to the stress by strengthening your muscles. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is the equivalent of “lifting weights” for your mind.
Thanks for Reading
I know this is a lot to take in, but I hope you found this article helpful — remember, it’s the journey that counts, not the destination. The best thing to do next is grab a pen and paper…put your phone away…and sit in silence for 1–2 hours thinking about the points above. Let yourself relax and jot down the ideas and thoughts that come to mind.
Enjoy — and go make yourself great!